Though the Golden Girls taught us to do the deed "only on your back… that way everything slides back and you look like you just had a facelift," you know you want to spice things up in the bedroom! What better way than girl-on-top? It's the ideal action for female orgasm, after all. You get to control the depth and motion, plus you'll be able to grind your hips in a way that gives more clitoral stimulation than any other position. This position also helps your man last longer as you slow things down!
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Personally, as a vulva-owning person, being on top is one of my favorite ways to reach orgasm with a penis or strap-on. When I straddle a partner, it allows me to control the depth, speed and rhythm of penetration as well as play with my clitoris. Like many women, I need vaginal penetration and clitoral stimulation to come. Although you may be in the take-charge position on top, be sure to ask your partner for input too. We got some sex experts to share seven favorite tips to make the most of being on top. Being on top makes it easy to access so many of your other sensitive erogenous zones, including the nipples and clitoris, and when combined with the pleasurable sensation of penis-in-vagina sex, this position can enhance your pleasure and your orgasm tenfold, Anne Hodder, a multi-certified sex educator tells SheKnows. For approximately three-quarters of people with vulvas, clitoral stimulation is necessary in order to reach orgasm during PIV sex, so this position can often help facilitate orgasm in ways that might be difficult in other positions. Many people with vaginas love these positions because they have more control over the speed and depth of thrusting and can also stimulate their clitoris at the same time. Try getting on top and letting your partner hold the vibe, letting them massage and stimulate you while you focus on getting your balance and rhythm down. So, climb on top, rock your hips and back and forth and enjoy the ride!
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Being on top has its perks. You get to be in total control of your pleasure and he gets to see you in all your glory — win, win! While some of us are finally being able to put our high school gymnastic lessons to good use — there are others who are just about being able to stretch at yoga — and then reaching for the door!
Being on top is often touted as THE way to take control of your pleasure, make sex especially penetrative sex feel the way you always thought it should, and give you orgasms all over the place. And all of that is normal. Listen, being on top can be super vulnerable. Like, being all naked up there can bring up stupid fears about how you look or whether you're secretly bad in bed. Is there a right way to move, and is that what you are doing??? Much as we might all want to channel our inner cowgirl, sometimes it's just easier said than done. Being on top during sex puts you in a vulnerable position and it can be intimidating and tricky to master for some.
