Whether you're dating someone new or just really want to give passionate oral sex to your current partner, everybody—and every vagina—is different. What pleased a previous partner may not work for your current sexual interest, and you may find yourself wondering whether there are other techniques out there that you're missing. We spoke with certified sex therapist Holly Richmond, Ph. With over two dozen techniques, we're sure one of these will help you do the trick. For many women, orgasming is physical and mental; they need to feel relaxed and in the mood. Begin by making out and exploring other areas first," she says, such as:. The breasts and nipples are very sensitive, and beginning by lighting stroking, circling, or licking the nipples, or gently cupping the breasts, can really turn your partner on. As you begin heading down, build up the anticipation by nibbling or licking their inner thigh, Richmond recommends. Feel free to explore other areas with your mouth or hands as well, like the neck, stomach, and butt. Stroke the vulva or clit with underwear still on.


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When it comes to performing oral sex , it can be as helpful knowing what not to do as what you should be doing. With some help from my friends, here's a definitive guide of what to avoid when you're going down:. If your hand skills are good enough, you barely have to use your lips. You can basically breathe on it and he'll come. So learn how he likes to be jerked off.
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Skip navigation! Story from Sex. That same study found that That said, as these numbers indicate, you're also not alone if you don't love oral sex — giving or receiving. Some people hate it. Others could take it or leave it. Some might prefer another kind of sex, whether that be manual stimulation, vaginal sex, anal sex, using a sex toy, or something else. There are plenty of other things to do in bed. When it comes to oral sex , there is a gender and sexuality gap, according to research.
Penis-in-vagina sex is not the be-all-end-all of sex. Oral sex can be just as pleasurable — if not more so — than penetrative sex. You know whose genital juice tastes like cookies and cream? We all have a taste down there. Avoid garlic, onions, asparagus, and cabbage, which reportedly make for a less-than-pleasant flavor. Any skin-to-skin contact with the genitals can spread STIs. The same goes for contact with vaginal, penile, or anal secretions.